30 May 2009

Don't be afraid of rejection!!!

My friend just show me 1 article. JUST for my reference

Don't be afraid of rejection
by Skildo
I don't think Singaporean men are afraid of rejection from women. That's right, you read correctly.

But men are afraid of the "embarrassment" that rejection brings. Not the rejection itself.

Bear in mind though, embarrassment is simply a feeling - an emotion.

In some ways, it is a self-manufactured emotion. Now, why do I say so?

If a woman were to turn you down, there is no meaning in the gesture alone.

You will need to draw meaning from that incident, and you will feel emotions arising from the meaning that you have created.

For instance, let's say you go talk to a lady at a cafe. Her body language tells you to leave her alone.

You could take your cue from there and her gestures to mean: "I failed and will never try talking to another girl again."

Or you could think of it this way: "I laugh it off and move on. Approaching strangers is amusing, it is just a way to see who is interested to talk you, and who is not, that's all."

Since embarrassment is an emotion one chooses to feel after a rejection, a neat technique to overcome that is to replace embarrassment with another emotion.

By the way, this is a 'trick' I learnt from the world of combat sports where fighters are taught to convert fear into something else.

There is a range of alternative emotions to choose from.

Should a woman give you an undesired response or 'rejection', instead of the usual embarrassment, you can feel:

- Motivated
- Playful
- Thankful
- Smart-assed
- Delighted by her antics
- Confident

Take your pick.

I know this sounds weird and you may be thinking: "Is this some type of new age mental babble?"

No, it is not.

This case might help illustrate my point.

Take the emotion of feeling 'playful' for instance.

A friend of mine is an expert in that. He once approached a lady at the Mrt station, and she told him: "I don't really feel comfortable chatting with guys who approach me."

Does he go into 'embarrassed' or other negative mode straightaway?

No, he got playful and replied: "You're right. And if there's any guy who does that to you, let me know. I'll teach him a lesson."

She giggled shyly, they chatted, he ended up getting her number. I rest my case.


So, here's a little action step.

Acknowledge that 'embarrassment' (or other anxious emotion) is not the only thing you can feel.

One guy can talk to a woman and is told to stay away and he feels humiliated.

Another guy talks to the same woman and is given the same response by the woman. He feels a bout of delight from her response and laughingly pokes fun at the girl to relax the situation.

I'm sure you've seen men like that.

So, it is a case of similar incident, but choosing to feel differently about your emotions.

Choose one empowering emotion that serves you continuously in your girl-getting adventures.

26 May 2009

Angeline was so right!

As I was walking to Mac, suddenly thought of what Ang told me last time.
Come to think of it.
Its like she hit the jackpot!!!
Somehow all correct!
She is damn good la.
I only roughly told her about the story and she analysed it within seconds.
Then blah blah. All out.
But she added on, "but also, you can also say that blah blah"
Which was what I choose to believe and so. Was incorrect!
OMG. But whatever. I'm just saying she is so smart!
Imagined if I choose to believe what she said, things will be going much smoother long ago.

Walking alone at night.
The scent of the flowers was so immersing.
So quiet (excluding the cars passing by) and peaceful.

Back at home. Do 40 push ups.
My routine now.. 1 day run, 1 day pump. Unless due to unforeseen circumstances or no time to run.

24 May 2009

Boys Over Flower

Watched Boys Over Flower.
Some Korea F4 drama. Some phrase they used in the show caught my eyes. Haha.

你, 不要在我不在的场合喝酒。<--- THIS CAUGHT MY EYE THE MOST. Immediately that came into my mind. FUCK.

早起的虫儿早死掉。(早起的鸟儿有虫吃)

正因为喜欢 所以为了对方考虑
就把自己的感情隐藏起。 这样对吗?
对个屁。那么做根本就是见外。不算是喜欢。
要是拿两个人第二天就死了。
那他自己岂不要被气得先走一步

比起因为没做而后悔,做完再后悔。

就算你勾引我妹妹, 然后三日内甩掉,恐怕我也不会生气。
动朋友的女朋友这种事我无法容忍。

Well, all these are till EP 6.

21 May 2009

Just edited my blog.
Spent a few minutes in office.
Look more decent now. ha!

wadever. waste food

Saw a very sad video.
About how people waste food and a guy collect all the leftover.
Brought it back to his area and distribute to the kids.
Brought some back to his family too..
Actually I did shed a tear.
I too emotional. hahaa..

I choose what food I eat, thats why I will finish it up and not wasting it.
When people buy food for me, I finish it up unless I'm really full.
Some may say I'm picky when it comes to food. Might be true. But real reason is if I eat something I don't like, there will be leftover. Abit also counts.
I have my way of not wasting food.

PS : This is my problem right. Wadever. Pissed for what.
PPS: Angry!

18 May 2009

Got this funny email
Quite true!!


Things girls don't realize....

1. Guys are more emotional than you think, if they loved you at one point, it'll take them a lot longer than you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

4. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're going for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.

8. Guys don't care how gorgeous you are, if you're a bitch Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like 'You know what?!..uh...nevermind..' would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys' weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about butts and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, 'Please come and listen to me.'

23. ,b>If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are jerks. Just because ONE is a jackass doesn't mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs. haha it's true..

34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually

35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

Step 1, 2 and 3

Damn it. Lionel's post is traumatising me!
I should not have asked WHO IS MISS X when i could already guessed it!
Keep wondering what they talked about.
BUT fuck it la. I can control.
I don't want to know a shit about it. ARGH fuck.


But Yeap.
I think I'm getting better quite fast!
Thats a good thing for myself.
Woohoo.

1) Delete all photos inside msn display pic.(done)
2) Delete all the chat history.(soon.. after I finish reading. quite funny)
3) All the photos from my computer. I don't need them anyway. Mostly posted in facebook. No need to touch.(Very soon! When I'm free. Office and home ComP)
4)I'm still thinking about it ahhhaah. Think will come out more ways. Maybe will start from STOP reading her blog. Abit difficult. Will try.
Chatting wise I think I'm good with it already. Don't really bother to talk also.
Although difficult la. Want to control so don't talk is the best. Well, can say nothing much to talk about at all. Self Control damn good now. Quite amazed with myself.
I guess I'm not mature enough to settle this in a better and faster way.
Hate myself for dragging this shit soooo lonnnnggggg.
Kinda stupid. (Logically)
Emotionally wise... I'm not sure.


And damn it.
Stop saying I'm emo already.
I seriously am not. I'm not that stupid to be emo now. haha.
You people will only irritate me.

Was planning tonight go jog.
Saw the best jogging spot in Sengkang. WOO HOO.
Morning went out for loading. Sms while walking.
Fell down. Lucky no one saw it. Fucking pain la.
Postpone jogging. Shall do some static exercise tonight.

16 May 2009

lucky never went to west coast for supper.
if not, confirm see her.

police.

When I see people that hate police so much, I really get so worked up.\
Especially those ARMY boys that keep saying police slack la. relax la.
But what can I say?
If ever they have the chance of being part of the police.
Then will they know. The amount of stress.
Well, commoner will never get to know a shit.

Chat with her abit.
Boring chat tho.
Mostly about the accident incident.
Wanted to talk nonsense or what but never.. All about the accident. Police stuff.
Kinda sian. Then suddenly she go sleep. What can be better right. What am I hoping for? Who I am anyway. haha.
Ya I'm not saying she is fucked up. I'm the one that is fucked up.

Ya so Saturday plan fail again.
Looks like I got to find other plan to do.
Damn it.
I think I really should 看开一点。 FUcking hell.
Really sick of being like this..

I want to be a good friend. But I don't know why I am doing this.
Faster RESERVICE la. CHEEBYE.

13 May 2009

tired

Yeah! These few days really suck..
OK maybe not Tuesday. The news came on the day.

Thought steamboat confirmed on Saturday.
Found out it wasn't. Cancelled! Damn sian.
Lucky I was with my cousin outside.
Watched 17 Again! with her.
Love her so much! Because she don't like the main actor but I only want to watch that show.
NO ONE WANT TO WATCH WITH ME. Partly because that time I PANGSEH some of my friends for whatever reason it was.
Ya so I not really that angry yet.

Wednesday.
Reached office fucking early!! 7.40am!
Stupid audit that don't INVOLVE us.
Freaking tired.
Thought will be meeting Judy and Muiling.
In the end cancelled. Because Muiling got things to do?
I thought I might be able to keep myself busy at least most of the weekday(s) so I don't need to go home too early. Hate to go home early now.. Will go crazy.
Damn sian!

I take over my in-charged shift on last Saturday.
THis week gonna work again. Because the vessel I'm in charge coming in! damn it.
Imagine vessel come in at 5 pm, I must go to Penjuru(Jurong) then after that do what. Crazy. FUck it. Although now I got no plan for Saturday at all. And I doubt I will..Damn it.
Maybe I will visit Chinese Garden. This time, myself.

11 May 2009

Stop posting

Hmmm.
I think I had enough of those emo stupid post.
Not gonna post them anymore. Not even happy post. That include saving them as draft.
The more I wrote, the more I would read them when I'm too free.
Ya so this will be the plan for now.

Accident.

Lionel called me.
I don't know what time.
But I know he called.
I don't know what i replied!!!
Damn it. He had an accident.
FUCk.
Think he need someone to be there but I'm not there.
What a friend I am.
Got back to work after MC for 2 days.
Asked to wear N95 mask.
FUCK.
But we made a joke out of it.









09 May 2009

Blue's Blog

Love this phrase in Blue's Blog

DO NOT, lose your INDIVIDUALITY for anyone. It is SIMPLY NOT WORTH IT. You can BE NICE, but just DONT LOSE YOURSELF.

08 May 2009

爱我的人和我爱的人

爱我的人和我爱的人

明盼不到我爱的人
我知道我愿意再等疼
不了爱我的人
片刻柔情它骗不了人
我不是无情的人
却将你伤的最深
我不忍 我不能
别再认真忘了我的人
离不开我爱的人
我知道爱需要缘分
放不下爱我的人
因为了解他多么认真
为什么最真的心
碰不到最好的人
我不问 我不能
拥在怀中直到他变冷
爱我的人为我痴心不悔
我却为我爱的人
甘心一生伤悲
在乎的人始终不对
谁对谁不必虚伪
爱我的人为我付出一切
我却为我爱的人
流泪狂乱心碎
爱与被爱同样受罪
为什么不懂拒绝痴情的包围

离不开我爱的人
我知道爱需要缘分
放不下爱我的人
因为了解他多么认真
为什么最真的心
碰不到最好的人
我不问 我不能
拥在怀中直到他变冷
爱我的人为我痴心不悔
我却为我爱的人
甘心一生伤悲
在乎的人始终不对
谁对谁不必虚伪
爱我的人为我付出一切
我却为我爱的人
流泪狂乱心碎
爱与被爱同样受罪
为什么不懂拒绝痴情的包围
爱我的人为我痴心不悔
我却为我爱的人
甘心一生伤悲
在乎的人始终不对
谁对谁不必虚伪
爱我的人为我付出一切
我却为我爱的人
流泪狂乱心碎
爱与被爱同样受罪
为什么不懂拒绝痴情的包围

07 May 2009

blue

I just like to talk to peifang.
She always manage to get my mind straight on something.
Don't know how long it will last though.
Hope this time is Mind over Feeling.
Fuck.

03 May 2009

Saturday. spent alot money.

Recently spent too much money!!!
ARghhh..
Got to control this month spending.

$54.60 on Saturday itself!!!
$50 on Sunday for mothers' day gifts.

$104.60!!!!

02/05/09 Saturday

Went work.
Really sick..
But got to work.
Left at 1pm +.
Finally tongda replied so I change route to Bedok instead of going home.
Got the car from him with lionel.
Rush here and there. Reached pit at 4.30pm+.

Didn't really had the chance of staying at the pit.
Got to be in the car mostly.
Part of my responsible for it.
So ya.. Quite sian also.. Coz I'm only sitting in the car doing nothing.
Whole Saturday was like so busy for me.

Got a weird feeling at the bbq. Altho I told myself to change my mood in the afternoon.
Instead I felt worse because of some bits here and there.
Things ended at 2+am.
Felt rather sick. Tired too.
Since they don't want to go home, I stayed there with them. Although I never talk much.
Slept a few times.
I'm not blaming them or what. Although I really wanted to go home first.
Reached home at 7+ I think.

Woke up at 1.45pm.
Wanted to meet cousies at Compasspoint.
Instead I slept again. Woke at 4pm. :)
Met them at interchange to take bus 87 to Hougang for Family dinner.
Shiok.
2 tables total only $169.20.
Back home after that.

02 May 2009

25th April 2009

After long planning of shit.
I PANGSEH them to meet Her. =)
Felt bad.

Waited for her at The Cathay.
She ended late.
So i went to MRT to find crew first. Saw her on the way.

Went Sakae Sushi for dinner.
ATE THINGS THAT I NEVER WILL EAT!
People that found out i had sushi with her, will kill me =)










Idiot. Kept saying she can be the model for Sakae.


Accompanied her home.
Lionel smsed they on the way to boat quay. Damn.
So fast.
Blah Blah Blah. Drag and wasted so much time at her area. Don't even know what I'm doing also.
Finally took a cab and left.

Met them at Shin 8 KTV pub.
Had quite some fun taking photos here and there.
Ya something happened in between.
Nvm that.
Quite sad after i received her sms. But i rather angry ba. AHHA.
Whatever. Just be happy at that moment can le. Don't wanna waste my time and money on nothing.





Nobody wants it!


My favourite photo of the day! Look so nice. She's attached! Don't touch.
Talk to Angeline about my stuff.
Super good speaker. Nice to talk to her.
She analyse all the possibilites to me.
"she might be blah blah blah. but she might also be blah blah blah"
"in the end, its still up to you to blah blah blah"












Its not what you think.








This dog is trying to bite.


Like a Star.


Like a star too.




01 May 2009

Split Personality

I seriously don't know whats happening.

I thought we are good friends.
You never smsed me so many things about her and stuff.
Until you found out or rather confirmed that 1 day maybe i will fall for her?
And you started smsing me almost every msg with her inside.
Making me rather tulan?
I flirt with her, you can't stand it.
And you need to remind me that i did that?
I told you it was for fun. And so it hurt you.
So i must stop it to prevent you from getting hurt or what?
I msg you abt my stuff.
You linked to her.
Every single thing u also link to her.
I smsed her the same sms i sent to u. The mc stuff. You were the first 1 i sent to in the list. And i smsed to quite a few ppl.
I say i no feeling for 1 person. Doesnt mean i need to move on to other person.
What "its the fact :)" for.
This is fucking sacrastic.
When i msg that, im very serious.
Im was hoping for a good reply or what.
I don't have people i can talk abt her stuff you know? Only you and maybe 2 other person thats it.
These was what I got from you?
Ok i know you are serious too.
But is there a need to link A to B?
They don't match at all.
All the facebook msg.
I did not even feel like replying to it.
All i felt is sacrasm.
Maybe you don't mean it.
But you are serious.
Things like "lol, tell u a secret. Edmond ask me post that nick"
Need to say?
It only seems like im playing a fool of it. Making it a joke. Fun to play with.
What were you thinking?
Maybe nothing. fine.
Things like "but you might need to compete with wu, lol."
What the hell was that.
You are the only one that know about it. Cozs u wanted to see the chat.
And you show that in the bloody thread.

I'm getting rather sick of this kind of feeling.
Why the hell i felt a sudden change of treatment from you, my good friend.
Do i really deserve it?
You totally seems like you want to be enemy.
Forgetting that we are friends?
Just a normal people you are competing with.
You really make me see a different side of you.
A side that i never thought would exist or i would ever see.
Split Personality?
Can i know whats wrong with you? Or am i the 1 in the wrong?

Ok maybe i do deserve it.
Thats it. I'm gonna stop all these.
Stop everything that i'm doing.
For things to be back to normal.
I hope.

Feel free to reply anything you want.
But through email please.
If can. I do hope the topic about me and her end here.
I don't want it to become anything worse.
Rather Disappointed.